Today's advice comes from Tim D.
Being LGBT is a part of who you are, but it does not define who you are and what you must think, believe, and hope for. There is as strong a current of conformity within the LGBT community as exists in most other communities, and their is a strong temptation for people who have spent the early part of their lives feeling misplaced to immerse themselves entirely in that current. That's fine, actually, but remember to come up for air. Remember that there really is no one correct way to be LGBT, and more than there is one correct way to be a man, or a woman, or a citizen. Remember that even though it is comforting to surround yourself with people who think and believe the way you do that a dissenting voice is often an invaluable treasure.
Tim D is a student, artist, Progressive Catholic, and radical moderate.
Today's submission comes from Jim F. of Seattle. Jim says
I think the best decision I ever made was to come out of the closet. I didn't do it until I was 34 years old. I realize that the adage "be true to oneself" is powerful. It took me a long time to figure out that most of my fears about showing up as my authentic self were imagined. As part of the process, I surrounded myself with other healthy adults who served as guides.
I'm a gay father with gay sons. My mission is to work with the community to prepare them -- and other young gay men -- for a happy and successful life.