You can tell a lot about a man's character by how he treats the people around him. This is especially true when you witness a man's behavior toward those who are in less powerful positions, like food servers.
When you're first getting to know a potential romantic interest, he will probably be on his best behavior with you, but he usually won't be out to impress the food server. Notice his interactions with the staff. Is he polite and friendly? Is he demanding and entitled? Is he rude and callous?
In addition to food servers, notice your date's interactions with the cashier at Target, the barista at Starbucks, and with anybody else in a service-type job.
And, don't put up with bad behavior! If your date can't be polite, find a date who can. If he's are a jerk to a stranger, it won't be long before he is a jerk with you.
Today's blog is a guest post from Michael K. in Seattle:
Honor the person you are with, enjoy their company, and bring joy to one another’s lives, but, when it is time to go, part gracefully while you are still friends.
Perhaps I’m not the best person to give relationship advice. My longest term relationship has been with my cat. But, were I to have one single piece of advice about relationships, it would be to recognize that some relationships are not “forever” relationships, as much as we might want them to be.
As we grow up as gay men, many people will come in and out of our lives. As a gay youth, don’t expect that your first relationships will be the forever ones. We all, perhaps, get hung up on the pursuit of "true love", but real life isn't a fairy tale.
One of the most harmful and difficult experiences we universally have as gay men is trying to keep a relationship on life support when it is not working for either person. When it is time to let go, part in friendship.
Today's contribution was provided by Michael K., a 48 year old gay man in Seattle, software professional, knitter, weaver, and classical languages dilettante.
Photo provided by PDpics, under an open license.
I'm a gay father with gay sons. My mission is to work with the community to prepare them -- and other young gay men -- for a happy and successful life.