Terry Drew Karanen writes
Believe in yourself. If you don't have a clue how to do that or don't think you're worthy of such trust, then know that I believe in you. You're welcome to borrow some of my faith in you until yours matures.
This is the heart of being a father, whether that relationship is biological, legal, or metaphorical. We watch our kids grow and learn, and we know that they aren't perfect. We don't expect perfection. To be honest, perfection makes us nervous because it means something weird is happening.
We also have full faith in you and your abilities. Chances are good that we have more faith in you than you have in yourself, but that's because we don't have that same negative chatter you do. So, when you find yourself in doubt, just look to your dad, and know that he believes in you, and wants what's best for you.
Terry Drew Karanen is a published author, speaker, licensed social worker and ordained minister. He holds doctor of divinity and master of social work degrees. He tells us, "I have reached out when I can to other gay boys and men (and some girls or women) who haven't had a father/big brother figure in their lives. I hope my life experience and the love, understanding and compassion I have to offer makes their paths easier than mine was at times."
I'm a gay father with gay sons. My mission is to work with the community to prepare them -- and other young gay men -- for a happy and successful life.